Monday, July 28, 2014

Weekend Recap

First, your comments on my post last week about a dating scare were really sweet. I shared my experience to keep it from happening to someone else. It has gotten a lot of views and I'm glad people are sharing. I'm doing much better this week and am moving on and staying positive.

Anyways, this weekend was amazing. I finally got some down time, and for the first time since I moved, had time there to just do things around my place and lounge on the sofa. Quiet time is not overrated y'all.

Friday night I met my friend for happy hour and dinner at a local pub near my work. We didn't stay late and I was home by eight. I found a new TV show on Netflix called Cedar Cove, which is a series on Hallmark based on the book series of the same name by Debbie Macomber. It's a cute show set in a small town in Washington State and I continued to watch the first season over the weekend.

Saturday morning I woke up early and had a lovely morning just doing things around my place. Y'all will laugh, but I took more pleasure in organizing my my tool box and nail/screw holder than one should. It had more to do with having the time and leisure to do so, than the actual task itself. I also figured out how to switch my current digital thermostat to a new one that you can program for different times of the day. It was a lot easier than I thought and reminded me I don't need to hire a handyman for everything.

A girlfriend picked me up mid morning and we went and got relaxing pedicures, followed by stops at Target and Kohls. We were only out for a couple of hours and I still had time to come home and vegg on the couch before heading on the lake.

I met friends around mid afternoon on the lake. We tied up at a Point Venture Beach on Lake Travis and enjoyed an afternoon of swimming and relaxing.

On the way back to the marina we decided to do some tubing. I haven't been tubing behind a boat in a couple of years and had a blast when my turn came.

I got home around 8:30 and  made a non-healthy, but delicious, dinner of a fried pork chop and mac and cheese and then went to bed. I got a glorious 10 hours of sleep, which was definitely needed.

Yesterday I got up early again and just enjoyed a quiet Sunday morning at home, watching Cedar Cove and relaxing on the sofa in my pjs. I ran a couple of errands around lunch time, but then spent the rest of the afternoon Netflixing and doing nothing, which was pretty much amazing. I even turned down brunch and a pool day with friends, because I really just wanted a day to myself. I sometimes forget it's ok to say no.

I need more weekends like this one. It was nice to have some fun, but also get some quiet time. I feel refreshed and ready to tackle the week.

Friday, July 25, 2014

Being More Careful

I was reminded this week that as a single women I need to be careful.

This week I had a scare. A scare from a member of the opposite sex. Where I felt threatened in my home. It shook me to the core and while I know I should have been a little smarter and careful about things, I want to share what happened to all the single ladies out there who might be reading this.

I mentioned early in the week I met a guy from an online dating site on Saturday. And we really hit it off. We hung out on Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and even Wednesday. I felt comfortable around this person, so I didn't think twice about inviting him to my apartment complex to go swimming after work. And by the fourth day of hanging out, I thought it fine to have him pick me up from work and take me to lunch. And by the fifth day, I was comfortable to have him in my apartment watching a movie and hanging out.

The problem is, you really don't know someone after five days.

Because on day five, while in my apartment at night, new guy revealed a lot more about himself. Issues he had about his childhood and teenage years, an marriage that ended badly, issues with his parents, emotional and physiological damage from being deployed in the army for many years. Things that freaked me out a little. Okay, things that freaked me out a lot.

He revealed all this to me after we had had a make out session (which on date five I think is perfectly lady like, so please don't judge). So after hearing all this I excused myself and went into my bathroom to fix my hair and use the facilities and figure out a way to get him to leave-- and I was followed in. And pushed up against the wall by someone who clearly had a lot of body strength. And then saw a look in dude's eye that scared the living shit out of me. To the point where I said, "You wouldn't hurt me would you?"

It took this guy a good ten seconds to let go of me and for the crazy to get out of his eyes after I said that. The longest ten seconds of my life. Y'all, I was really scared. He finally let go of me, went in my living room grabbed his keys, and went to head out the door. You bet your ass I followed him to make sure I could lock the door behind him.

But he didn't leave. Instead he stood in my doorway giving this long speech about how to give him another chance, he was sorry, blah blah blah. I wasn't having any of it. But I tried to be nice and defuse the situation. He finally left. I locked up my door and stood there. And then he knocked on the door again and said he left his phone. And he flipping had, which really really sucked. So I grabbed his phone, slightly opened the door and handed it to him. I think in a horror movie this is where everyone goes, "What is she thinking". But when its happening you do stupid things.

He took the phone out of my hand and then looked at the peep hole in my door. And told me how it was easy to unscrew those and you could put a camera in them and watch inside a house. All I could think at that moment was "I have no way to defend myself in my own home, what am I going to do if he pushes this door open more". He continued to beg for me to give him another chance. Despite the fact I was about ready to pee my pants, I told him I had to think about everything and would be in touch tomorrow. I would have said anything at that point to get him to leave.

And he finally left.

I ran to my window and watched him leave in a hurried and visibly angry way including tires squealing and all. I double checked the locks on every window and door in my place. I was shaking. I was terrified. I couldn't beleive what had just transpired. I then realized how stupid I had been. This guy knew where I worked and lived. What was I thinking!?!

I called my good friend and told her what happened. To be honest y'all, I wasn't sure if he would come back after what he said about the peep hole. And the stupid gate in my community is broken, so it would be easy for him to reenter. My girlfriend said she was getting in her car and would come stay the night.

It was the longest 20 minutes of my life. Every noise outside, even my own shadow freaked me out. I felt dirty. My place felt dirty. I threw our pool towels in the washing machine and washed them on hot. I scrubbed my bathroom to try and get what happened out of it. I took a shower, washed my face three time and brushed my teeth twice. And finally my friend showed up.

She brought me some mace spray and told me to keep it on me for the next few days. We then had a long talk about me letting people in my home. She made a good point that I feel in my element when at home and thus love having people over. But I need to be a lot more careful about who I let in and after how long.

I slept ok that night with my friend next to me. However, ever loud truck, or noise outside woke me up. The next morning my friend left early and I was still shaken up. I was also still feeling a little under the weather from being sick earlier in the week, so I took a PTO day. I spent all morning scrubbing my place from top to bottom. I wanted any trace of this guy gone. I wanted the bad joos joos gone. I wanted my home to feel like a safe haven again. Cleaning also helped me get my emotions out and get a small workout in.

Crazy guy had been texting me since the night before. I finally text him politely, but firmly, to say that I was not the right girl for him and I didn't think we should see each other again and to please not contact me again. I then blocked his number on my phone.

I finished cleaning around lunch time. I decided while cleaning to throw out the blanket we had made out on and go buy a new one. I was just too creeped out by the idea of keeping it. When I left my house, I had the mace in my hand and was keeping an eye on the parking lot.

Last night when I got home and it was dark, I checked every room and closet when I got back. Quite honestly, I don't think this guy will come back, but I was still creeped out at an empty apartment.

This morning I'm a little less creeped out, but I still checked my parking lot while walking to my car. I'll probably check my apartment when I get home tonight. And hopefully in the near future this becomes a distant memory.

That being said, I have learned some serious lessons.

1. Don't jump into things too quick. It's ok to take it slow and even if you really, really like someone-- you don't have to spend every day together.

2. Be careful what you share at first. Name/location of where you work, where you live, etc and so forth. Even if you do feel comfortable around someone.

3. Always trust your instinct.

4. It's ok to call a friend if you are scared, they won't feel bothered.

5. Protect yourself. Hence the bottle of mace that is now in my nightstand and the self defense course my girlfriends and I are now signing up to take.

Granted, someone you meet at a park, coffee shop, or bar could be just as crazy as someone you meet online. As for me, I'm being more cautious moving forward. And as of right now, my online dating profile is suspended indefinitely.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Strep {Again}

About a week or so ago my throat started hurting. I knew in the back of my head I was going to get strep. I get strep at least once a year. And I've learned if I go to the doctor too soon, I will test negative for it and get sent home, only to end up back at the doctor a week later in more pain, forking over more of my single person income to the co-pay-- just to be told {spoiler alert} I now have strep.

I didn't feel like driving in traffic to my primary care doctor this morning, so I just hopped on over to the urgent care near my house and got a strep test, which tested positive.

I left 15 minutes later with a prescription for amoxicillin and ibuprofen. I popped those bad boys about a half hour ago and am already starting to feel relief. I'm also pretty darn tired, but going to try and make it through the rest of the day, because I hate using my PTO for a sick day unless I am on my death bed.
I also got the pleasure of texting new guy, C, and letting him know the little lip action that happened before saying goodnight last night may have resulted in him getting sick. How romantic.

Nevertheless we had fun last night. We swam in the pool for a couple hours and he grilled some chicken I had marinated earlier in the day. There is nothing better than a summer night swimming and grilling. We've hung out for the last three days and its been a lot of fun. We are both water babies and love swimming, boating, fishing, and kayaking. So there is always something to do water related. I am definitely smitten with this guy.

Have a great day y'all.